Insecurity: How to deal with this feeling?

Increasingly present in our daily lives, the origins that feed our feeling of insecurity appear in the form of different limiting beliefs.

These beliefs, based on interpersonal relationships and the environment in which the individual is inserted, put them in an emotional state of fear and apathy, causing the person to lose pleasure in day-to-day activities.

Insecurity, in a general context, is best defined when understood in contrast to its opposite: security.

While security refers to an idea of comfort, tranquility and certainty, insecurity refers to the lack of these feelings. So, insecurity is a feeling that is linked to fear and uncertainty.

What beliefs feed the feeling of insecurity?

Most of the time, insecurity is related to the person's difficulty in believing in themselves and their potential, that is, low self-esteem.

Therefore, there are often beliefs linked to the fear of not being capable, fear of not being successful in undertakings or of finding oneself in a vulnerable position in some way.

We can all feel insecure at some point in life and at different intensities. What differentiates, however, a functional insecurity (which prepares you for the situation) from a dysfunctional insecurity is the emotional suffering and damage in general that it causes.

That is, the level of suffering and the interruption of desires and projects in the face of insecurity is what will predict the need to seek help to deal with the losses that accompany the person.

Some signs to identify if a person is insecure:

* Low self-esteem;

* Indecision;

* Constant need for approval;

* Fear of receiving criticism;

* Fear of being rejected;

* Restlessness;

* Emotional dependence;

* Pessimism.

* Fear of failure.

These factors cause and perpetuate a state of generalized emotional discomfort, causing the person not to know how to deal with insecurity in an adequate way.

This feeling of inferiority to others can govern your life.

Why do we become insecure?

Insecurity and anxiety go together. The anxious person has a natural tendency to be insecure because they spend a lot of time questioning and criticizing themselves and their decisions. Even when people feel safe when they take action, the doubt whether that was the right choice hovers over them and encourages feelings of inferiority.

A person can also become insecure after negative experiences, bullying, parental neglect, trauma, injustices suffered, abusive and toxic relationships.

Consequently, the individual does not allow himself to have a happy and balanced life and self-sabotages all the time, harming his daily life and missing out on great opportunities for self-knowledge, causing damage to his personal life, family, social and professional relationships.

How to deal with insecurity?

Although this emotional state of doubt and inferiority is extremely harmful, it is possible to overcome insecurity and live a happy, balanced life in line with your values, goals and personality.

Here are some ways to end anxiety and insecurity.

1. Self-knowledge: The practice of self-knowledge is the fundamental basis for discovering what limiting beliefs lead to thoughts and feelings of inferiority. The best way to do this is through questioning.

2. Healthy habits: Do your daily habits help you to have good emotions?

If they feed discouragement and tiredness, consider replacing them with healthy habits.

Being kind to yourself, practicing physical exercises, going to therapy and having a balanced diet are some of the habits that you can incorporate into your routine.

3. Share and ask for help from people close to you to overcome obstacles

4. Personal development: Personal development is equally important to deal with insecurity: If you feel that there are gaps that need to be filled in to reach your goals, seek to fill them with more science, experiences and courses to develop skills and acquire new ones.

5. Specialists who can diagnose and medicate insecurity are:

General practitioner;

Psychiatrist;

Psychologist.

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In addition to our tips, it is essential to seek professional help from a competent therapist, in the long process of self-development and self-knowledge, in case insecurity is taking over you and disturbing your daily performance and harming your life. If you or someone in your family has any of the above symptoms, it is very important to seek help as soon as possible, thus preventing the problem from becoming more serious. In this way, it is possible to regain a good quality of life and live much better, as insecurity can be cured with proper treatment.

In addition, it is ESSENTIAL that you continue with therapy sessions even if you feel better after starting drug treatment.

IMPORTANT: We are Holistic Therapists and our treatment is alternative. Even presenting satisfactory results, it is essential to emphasize that only duly qualified physicians can diagnose diseases, recommend treatments and prescribe medication.

All the best!

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Shalom!

Debora and Daniel Wiseman